Couples have challenging times which can include arguments, bad moods, bad behavior and legitimate mistakes. The question is, what follows? How do some couples get through these situations with greater ease than...
Category - Relationships
Lisa Brookes Kift, MFT
Ask Lisa: My boyfriend is playing house with his ex and son
I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year and a half. He is a wonderful man and father to a nine-year old son. I am crazy about them both. I am a single mother to a two-year old girl. Her father lives in...
The Benefits of a Secure Attachment
Your early attachment to your parents or primary caregivers is one of the important elements setting the stage for your emotional and relationship health as an adult. Your past truly does matter as the quality of your...
11 Secrets of Happy Couples
When you see the words, “happy couples” what comes up for you? You probably know a few of them. They may be friends of yours or a couple you’re aquainted with – and they always seem to be happy...
Ask Lisa: I broke up, wanted him back – and now I’ve been replaced!
I loved a man intensely, later in life (I am heading into my 40’s). To be honest, he was my first boyfriend. We loved each other a lot, but broke up for various reasons. I initiated it, but 2 months later i...
4 “Must-Knows” for a Happy, Healthy and Connected Relationship
After attending the Psychotherapy Networker Symposium in Washington DC, I came away with some very important and research supported “tidbits” from some of the top thinkers in couples and relationship health...
Ask the Lisa: My boyfriend is having an improper relationship with his therapist
My boyfriend has seen a therapist over the past year for help dealing with some problems that he has has relating to his children. Recently he has disclosed to me that his therapist called him at his home and requested...
Good Relationships are Like Making Movies
As a therapist and an ex-Hollywood Assistant Director, I have unique insight into both careers. Throughout my twenties I ran around with youthful exuberance on many a film and television set, walkie-talkie strapped to...
Key Insights | Happy Marriage : An Often Overlooked Way of Connecting Couples
There are so many ways for couples to connect and nurture their marriages. I’ve written a lot about how to create emotional safety, adult attachment, how to avoid or work through a build up of resentment, build...
And Baby Makes…a Disconnected Relationship?
Everyone knows that as wonderful as having children is – it changes everything. In particular, the marriage or relationship from which the kids are born can take a significant hit. According to a study by the...
